People have such mixed reactions when they find out I’ve lost my husband. Some assume, I’m divorced because it’s hard for them to imagine I’d be a widow at my age. I guess the reaction for my thoughts today would be the same for people who are widowed or newly divorced.
It seems as if people try to filter what I’m exposed to in the way of relationship happiness. Let me explain. When people get engaged, celebrate anniversaries, get married, it’s as if sometimes people think I’ll feel really bad. Quite the opposite actually. Now I know this isn’t the same for everyone in my situation but for me, I LOVE it!
To celebrate being in love, finding that person who compliments your life and puts a smile on your face is the greatest gift ever. I had that, yes! I love seeing other people share in the same blessing. A blessing I hope to find again someday. I’ll admit when I first lost Mark it was hard. Then when I saw others celebrate their 15 year anniversary this past year I would tear up because it would’ve been our 15 year anniversary as well.
Even through any tears, though, there would be tears of happiness. Happy to see couples get to that point and still celebrate each other. Happy to see couples starting on their journey together with a life ahead of them. So I never want to be sheltered from those moments. The happiness people feel is contagious and we all need that.
When people give me that “look” of “oh no, we didn’t mean to talk about this in front of you,” I always just smile and says congratulations. Because I truly am so happy for them! Yes, celebrate each other, celebrate love, celebrate making it through those hard times together and coming out stronger for it. Just celebrate life and living, life is too short not to. If you ever need that reminder, well, you know who to talk to. So today, after you read this, if you are one of those people blessed to have a special person in your life, hug them a little tighter and a little longer. If you’re still searching for that someone, they’re out there and when you find them, I’ll celebrate with you.